Reasons Why You’re Jealous (And How To Stop)


 

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Jealousy is one of the things that can cause major rifts in a relationship. I call it the Relationship Killer. Its a really nasty trait and would never advise someone to get into a relationship with someone who is jealous natured.

Are you the one in the relationship that tends to get jealous? Is your partner jealous of you? Do you both display jealousy at different points in your relationship  Would you like to understand it better and know what to do?

1. You’re feeling insecure, whether you realize it or not. 

The first cause of jealousy is a basic insecurity, which manifests as conscious or subconscious.

Some women or men are worried that they will lose that person if they give them too much freedom, and their mind goes wild runs away with them and they read into every action and look.

Some people are really concerned about their partner leaving them even meeting someone better than them but this seed of doubt can spoil any relationship.

Because you are ever vigilant watching for the least sign of straying, you can drive yourself and your loved one crazy with your suspicions and accusations.

2. Your past is coming back to haunt you. 

Sometimes jealousy stems from past experiences: someone from a past relationship cheated on you or maybe you watched someone you care for go through this ordeal with his partner. Maybe even your partner cheated on you during an earlier part of your relationship.

You are afraid to let your guard down because you don’t ever want to go through that horrible pain again.

What can you do? If the past experience involved someone other than your current partner, remind yourself she hasn’t done anything wrong.

Your past can be your biggest enemy you really carry some dirt over from your past relationship to your latest one and this will make a hell lot of difference. Let go of the past if something bad happened or you will continue the cycle of the bad relationship in your new one.

Don’t judge your new partner if he has not done anything wrong yet people are very different so bare that in mind.

3. You think you “own” your partner.- yourtango thinks 

Another form of jealousy comes from believing your partner belongs to you. When you have this mindset, there is no room for him to even speak to another woman. If he even glances another woman’s way, you are all over him, ostensibly keeping him in line.

The problem with this is that jealousy is never attractive. Whenever you accuse people of things they are not doing, you increase the chances they will do it just to spite you. After all, you’re punishing them as if they are guilty so why not do the crime?

If this is you, remember you do not own anyone. Your partner has free will and will be with you as long as he wants to and will leave you when he chooses. You can’t control him into living a life he doesn’t want to live.

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